Partner wants to move in, I want to wait. Am I being unreasonable?
Question by Katherine Wheel: Partner wants to move in, I want to wait. Am I being unreasonable?
No ‘you should have thought about that’ etc…I just want some ADULT opinions.
BF & I have been dating for 3months, hes 27, I’m 30. He lives with his parentt after coming out of an 8yr relationship & has just finished a temp contract with work, I have my own place and work part time.
Found out much to our suprise that I’m pregnant, due in Sep. I’m currently arranging a divorce and my partner is going bankrupt to wipe out his debts. He’s also going to counselling.
We live 70 miles apart and he wants to move in with me. I want us to get our affairs straight before we do so we can make a clean start. Besides, I’m not ready. I’ve lived on my own for 10yrs (bar 2yrs with hubby) so need to get used to the idea of a family.
I think I’m being sensible but he says I’m being selfish & he feels unsettled, coming up at weekends. I feel he’s really forcing it on me & that it’s just for his benefit, ready made home etc.
What do you think?
I’ve told him how I feel but he takes offence.
Thanks for the answers so far. I don’t want him to move up yet….my question is do you think I’m being unreasonable about it & my reasons why?
Peggy….I wanted adult answers. Please don’t be rude and ‘lecture’ me on contraception. I’m 30! Your answer was good up until that point.
That said…….we were using condoms.
As for rebound….its been nearly a year. I know a man on the rebound. he isn’t.
Best answer:
Answer by manchester*gal
70 miles is a long way to travel but then 3 months isnt really long enough to know eachother before moving in. that said your pregnant with his child so i guess him moving in will have to happen sooner or later.
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